Lessons from 40 Years of Marriage

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Grace (Hanin) Community Church

– our LPD Church of the Week

Thanks to Anna (Ben) Crumback at Sointula Community Church for producing the Church of the Week!

Grace Hanin Community Church, located in Surrey, BC, is the largest church in the EFCC.  This church, birthed to reach Korean-Canadians has now in turn, birthed seven other churches. We are thankful for the partnership of  Pastor Shin Il Park (Hyojin), the pastoral team and the church family, and we celebrate what God is doing, both in and through them.


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Sunday, July 7, Karen and I celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary.



July 7, 1979
 



Honeymoon in our VW Westfalia


Still sailing through life
 

Forty years is a long time, but it has gone very quickly. Apparently, this is a good thing!

Karen and I met at university, while both of us were involved in the campus leadership of Inter-Varsity Christian Fellowship. We were married between my second and third year of seminary, and together, we have been blessed with four children, three daughters-in-law, eight grandchildren (soon to be nine), and have enjoyed many adventures camping, sailing and in ministry. We have served with Inter-Varsity Christian Fellowship in Victoria for five years, pastored North Delta EFC for seventeen years, and served as superintendent of the LPD for another seventeen years. God has been good, and He has been faithful.

As a couple is married and share vows, they have no idea what life will bring and what living out the promise, “to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part,” will mean. No two stories are the same.

Forty is a significant number in Scripture. Bible study.org states, “Mentioning 146 times in Scripture, the number 40 generally symbolizes a period of testing, trial or probation.” While Karen and I have certainly experienced both times of joy and times of challenge in ministry, Karen has always been so supportive and has been willing to accompany me in the many wild adventures of life and ministry. I could not have remained in ministry without her love and partnership in life and ministry.

Forty years gives God time to work in one’s heart and faith. God invested 40 years in preparing Moses to lead God’s people towards the Promised Land, and another 40 years in readying a new generation of people to enter it.

Forty years can also represent a generation, and I am increasingly aware that I, as a father, grandfather and district superintendent, need to invest in the generations to come.

Over these forty years, God has worked in me, and in us as a couple. While I still love adventure as much as ever, I have learned to trust and rely on God more and more. While I am by nature a “fixer” of cars, of boats, of houses and computers, I am humbled by acknowledging that only Christ can “fix” people and His Church. As John the Baptist said, “He must become greater, and I must become less.”

I also find more and more joy in servant-leadership. I have survived the passing trends of “visionary leadership,” formulas for church growth and the efforts to emulate the ministry and “success” of others. Servant-leadership never gets old, and is to be the hallmark of all who would follow Christ.

It is a joy to walk together with our Lord, to share life, family and ministry with Karen, and to have the honour of being servants of the Lord and his people. We love you in Christ and thank you for your prayers and partnership in the Gospel.
 

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Here is an interesting and reflective article on servant leadership. I trust that you will find this both encouraging and helpful as you lead your local church.

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Who’s Who in the LPD?


Our district board is composed of seven volunteers, as well as me and our LPD Office Administrator, Josephine Papp. With thirty-four churches, two church plants and seven church planting missionaries, our plate is full, and there is much more that I can see to as district superintendent.

Today, I would like to introduce you to Tim and Emily Stewart. Tim, as the name might imply, is the son of Karen and me, and he and Emily pastor Parkdale EFC in Victoria, where they have served for the past three years.

Tim was born in Victoria, as Karen and I served with Inter-Varsity Christian Fellowship. We attended Parkdale EFC for the first year of Tim’s life, and Tim was dedicated to the Lord there. It is special for him, Emily and their children, Miriam, Malcolm and Wesley to be a part of this church family, and God’s work there.
 


Tim had the opportunity to begin pastoral ministry as youth pastor at North Delta EFC, the church that I pastored from 1985 to 2002, and the church that Tim grew up in. He first served with Pastor Dick Wiedenheft, and later Pastor Mark Johnson, until Tim and Emily left to pastor New West EFC.

As Tim began pastoral ministry, he was one of several young pastors that I refer to as “young keepers.” These are young pastors, serving faithfully as youth pastors, assistant pastors and interns, but also those we also believe will not be, “doing what they are doing, where they are doing it,” five years into the future. We want to affirm and encourage these young leaders, and to walk with them as they grow and as God leads them. Other “keepers” have been Phil Yung, Allen Chang, Randy Lemke, Steve Doerksen, John Thiessen, Will Burgess and Jason Lavergne, all of whom are serving within the LPD as church planters and pastors. All began as “young keepers,” and I am thankful for all those who have invested in them. As I reflect on generations, this is an urgent ministry!

As a veteran “young(er) keeper,” Tim serves on our district board as the “Director of Innovative Ministries,” and is glad to connect with, encourage and mentor younger pastors. We celebrate each one, value their current ministries, and we are committed to walk with them as they serve and look to God for the future.

Please pray for Tim and Emily as they serve, both in their church and with us in the LPD! We are thankful for them,  and I deeply appreciate Tim as our son and for his ministry alongside.

Please pray for:

  • Peter (Woongshik) Han, aka. Lt.(N) Peter Han, who began training as a chaplain this week in the Canadian Forces. He is our first EFCC Korean-Canadian chaplain, and has been posted to Esquimalt, where he and his family will be attending Parkdale EFC.
  • We are also thankful for Padre Shiya Janzen Lt (N), who has recently been promoted to be the coordinator for chapel services at the Esquimalt Base. We are thankful that God has placed EFCC people to serve on behalf of us all.
  • Joshua and Nicole Fast, new Children’s Ministry Intern at Parkdale EFC, who is also now a LPD Missionary, as he begins “Priceless Youth Ministries, a ministry to families of special needs children/youth. Pray for their son, Malachai, as he recovers from surgery he underwent on June 5.
  • The Steveston Project Team – Allen and Hannah Chang and Daniel and Joyce Wong. Pray for them, as they lead this developing work of God, and give thanks for the lives being touched through the Gospel. Pray for our Advisory Team, as we meet on June 26.
  • New Westminster EFC. Pray for Transitional Pastor Ralph (Karen) Hardy and Church Planters Jorge (Emily) Lin this church family, as they seek the Lord for the “new” work.
  • Tom and Sandy Ford and family, as he awaits transplants, made necessary through the impact of his diabetes.
  • Quadra Island Bible Church, as they seek the Lord in their pastoral search. They are interviewing a potential candidate, and we trust God to guide all in this process.
  • Christ Community Church is considering options for pastoral ministry for the future.
  • Carl Lindstrom, a faithful member and volunteer at New Westminster EFC, who has aggressive prostate cancer. Praise the Lord that he is responding well to chemotherapy.
  • LPD Board. Board members are Randy Lemke (Allana) – Chair, Patrick Chan (Sarah) – Property and Finance, Ben Crumback (Anna) – Island Liaison, Charles Labun (Carolyn) – Church Board Liaison, Rob Stewart (Karen) – D.S., Tim Stewart (Emily) – Innovative Ministries, Paul Yang (Jin) – Korean Church Liaison; Phil Yung (Grace) – Church Planting and Josephine Papp, LPD Office Administrator – Recording Secretary. Please pray for provision of a Chinese Church Liaison.
  • Steve (Gillian) Sharpe, in his ministry as LPD Missionary of Church Planting Development, serving both our LPD Missionaries and Church Plants, and church planting in the EFCC.

Upcoming Events:

“Arise Ministers Conference”

We are thankful for Pastor Sammy Kabyemera (Eva), who pastors Jesus Grace International Church, a church in Vancouver. Sammy, Eva and their six children came to Canada as refugees from Congo, via an Ugandan Refugee Camp.
 

While their church ministers primarily to African Immigrants, they retain a heart for the people and church of Africa. Sammy is troubled by the spread of the “prosperity gospel” in Africa, and is burdened to see that pastors are grounded in the Word of God and equipped to teach and guide God’s people.

Sammy is trusting God to travel to Africa for a mission trip to train and equip African Pastors through a conference that he has been asked to speak at. Please see the attached email, to learn more of this conference, and the need in Africa, and how we can support this important ministry to brothers and sisters in Africa.  
 

Arise_Pastors_Conference_2019.pdf

Please prayerfully consider giving towards this mission

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CAMP EVERGREEN

August 5-10

This local summer camp is affiliated with the Lower Pacific District, and provides a great opportunity to extend your church ministry through camp, and to follow up afterwards. Many district families, including ours have benefited through this ministry, both in the children’s camp and leadership development in the LTD program. This summer, there is a children’s camp (Aug. 5-10), a teen camp and the LTD Leadership Program. Check out their website for details:

https://www.campevergreen.ca/


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LPD/EFCC Pastor and Staff Orientation


All pastors staff and interested volunteers are welcome too this opportunity to learn about the history, ethos, doctrine and ministries of the EFCC. Orientation is a requirement for all persons seeking credentialing in the EFCC, and is valuable for everyone in EFCC churches.


Here is the info.

Pastor_and_Staff_Orientation_2019_Invitation.pdf

You can register online at:
https://www.efccm.ca/wordpress/pastors-orientation/

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LPD Pastor and Spouse Retreat

Nov. 22-24, 2019

Hello LPD pastors, we’d like to invite you to join us on Nov. 22-24, 2019 for a Pastors’ retreat!  We’d like to encourage you to take a breather in late November (before Advent begins) with your fellow pastors at Camp Charis in Chilliwack.Registration is open on our LPD Website. Please see:
https://www.lpd-efcc.ca/event/lpd-pastor-and-spouse-retreat/

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